Identifying Signs Your Ex Boyfriend Still Loves You
Understanding your man's position is a big part of getting him back. Before you can take steps toward reversing your break up, you'll first need to know exactly how your ex boyfriend currently feels about you.
The hard part here is that you can't just come out and ask him. Although men are pretty straightforward, when it comes to breaking up we often don't know what to do. We lie to cover our asses and we lie to make you feel better... in short, the truth isn't something we easily part with when talking to an ex girlfriend.
For this reason, you'll need to identify the signs and signals given off when your ex boyfriend still has feelings for you.
Some of these signs will be pretty obvious, and they'll mimic the same flirtatiousness and attention you received when you and your ex first started dating. Other signs will be a lot more subtle, and they'll be given off by your ex on some very subconscious levels. Knowing how close he is to wanting you back can dictate when you yourself should be making a move, so it's important to recognize when your boyfriend is missing you again.
Reading Your Ex Boyfriend's Current Attitude Toward You
A lot of information can be gained by examining the way your ex treated you, both during and immediately after the break up. Did he let you down gently, or was he cold and clinical? Did he put his arm around you or did he act distant and detached?
A boyfriend who's looking to leave for good will try to keep things all business. On the flip side, a guy who's looking to soften the blow probably still has deep-seeded feelings and emotional attachment toward you. He's treating you with kid gloves because he doesn't want to hurt you, but also because it leaves the door open for possible reconciliation. Even though he's dumping you, it's always nice for a guy to know he can get you back if and when he wants to.
What Does It Mean When Your Ex Keeps Calling You?
Whenever your ex boyfriend is making an effort to keep contact, it's always a good sign. He might still be distant and evasive, and he might insist he's only staying in touch 'as a friend'. The truth of the matter though, is that your ex still hasn't let go of your relationship. He might not be ready to start it back up, but he's definitely interested in keeping you close.
In the case of a total and absolute break up? Your ex wouldn't talk to you at all. Knowing that any attempts at contact could be misconstrued by you as a sign of interest, an ex boyfriend who's totally finished with the relationship will avoid you like the plague. This isn't because he's trying to hurt you or be mean - in most cases, it's because he's trying to protect your feelings. When a guy wants the break up to be final, getting in touch with him will always be one-sided.
If your ex hasn't shown any signs of calling or reaching out to you, there are ways of getting him to initiate such contact. Be sure to learn these methods and techniques for re-opening the lines of communication, and for information on exactly when you should be doing so.
Receiving Emails and Text-Messages After The Break Up
Whenever a guy breaks up with you, he'll be looking for a reaction. Even if he puts up the toughest and most uncaring facade, your exboyfriend will still be glancing over his shoulder to see how you handle the break up. He actually expects you to fight for the relationship, and he would be totally shocked if you didn't. This is why it's always best to distance yourself initially, and wait for your ex's response to your non-reaction.
Your ex boyfriend might email or text-message you for a thousand different reasons. He may want to clear up a few final points, ask for his stuff back, or even just ask how you're doing. Keep in mind that all of these reasons are bullshit. They're nothing more than excuses for him to get back in touch with you, in order to feel you out. Your ex doesn't want to know how you're doing, he wants to know exactly how upset you are that he's finally gone.
Post-breakup emails and text messages are copouts. If your ex doesn't have the balls to call you, you shouldn't be answering his questions or messages. And even if he does call? It's always best to ignore your boyfriend's initial attempts at contacting you. As much as you want to pick up that phone, the best course of action is to withdraw for a while. Read up on why this is a necessary part in the process of
getting your ex boyfriend to miss you quickly.
As much as texting your ex can actually hurt your chances of winning him back, the fact that your exboyfriend is trying to keep in touch with you this way is definitely a sign he still has feelings for you. If he didn't care what you were doing one way or the other, he wouldn't be carrying out this type of communication with you at all.
What Does It Mean When Your Ex Wants To See You?
Calling... talking... even texting and emailing you are all good signs that your ex still needs you in his life. But when he asks to physically see you? This is an even bigger sign that he can't continue normally without having you around.
An ex who asks to see you may want to reconcile. At the same time, he may be looking to see how far along you've gotten without him. Every guy who ever breaks up with you - whether he still loves you or not - wants to move on with his social life before you do. Your ex doesn't want to hear that you're having fun, doing well, or especially seeing anyone else right now. This would mean that you got over him very quickly, and that would bruise his ego. Badly.
An ex boyfriend who shows up at your home, school, or even your job is doing just that: checking up on you. He might still be considering the break up, and he doesn't want you going anywhere until he makes up his mind. You sitting around the house upset, depressed, or waiting for his phone call... these are the things that your ex wants to see. He wants to know that you're not moving on without him, giving him the strength to continue the break up and see what else might be on the horizon.
"If I show my boyfriend that I'm still here for him, and not doing anything else?
He'll know that I love him."
So many women make this same terrible mistake. In reality, winning your boyfriend back becomes ten times harder once he feels comfortable that you're still waiting around for him. You're prolonging the break up by appearing desperate and needy.
In any case, an ex who wants to see you face-to-face is already missing you. By dropping out of sight for a while, you create a scenario where your boyfriend comes to you. This is a huge signal that he might be ready to get back together. It's also an important building block for any new relationship: when your boyfriend comes back on his own free will, your romance will be a lot more likely to last than if you chased him down and he relented.
Hooking Up With Your Ex Boyfriend - Sex After Breaking Up
When trying to win back your boyfriend, it's not easy knowing what steps to take. As you reopen the lines of communication, you have to be careful with every move. False hope is everywhere, and it's easy to move too fast. If your boyfriend isn't ready to get back together, pushing him too hard could easily send him running in the opposite direction.
At the same time, you need to be wary of him moving too fast. Some guys will miss you emotionally: they'll miss having you around to talk and hang out with. Other guys will miss you sexually, especially if they've been celibate the whole time since you've been broken up.
There's nothing wrong with your ex boyfriend physically wanting to be with you again. Sexual chemistry is a huge part of any healthy relationship, and it's a good sign that he's still attracted to you. If you've had a great physical history together it's only natural for the both of you to miss it. That said, you also need to be wary of your exboyfriend's intentions whenever he starts getting sexual again after the break up has already happened.
A guy who's out for pure sex will often say whatever he thinks you want to hear. The next morning, you could find a very different situation. Protect yourself from getting hurt by gauging your ex's true feelings and emotions against what he's telling you before hooking up. Two ex-lovers falling back into bed together might not seem so bad, but when you've been hurt by the break up and are desperate to get back together with an ex boyfriend? Your take on the sexual encounter might be a lot different than his take on it.
Your Boyfriend Wants To Be Friends - Why It's a Good Sign
After breaking up with you, some guys will offer to remain on friendly terms. Either they're trying to let you down easy, or they genuinely want to keep you around... just in case they change their minds about the break up. NO guy who ever utters the "let's be friends" line ever wants to really, truly be friends with you. Despite what anyone else might tell you, the post-breakup friendship can never work.
Even if you broke up mutally and wanted to stay friends with each other, unstoppable forces will crush such a friendship from the outside in. Case in point: your next boyfriend. Think he's going to be cool with you hanging out with your ex? Probably not. Which is why he'll keep you away from him, causing friction, bitterness and abandonment issues.
What about your ex's new girlfriend? Think she's going to want you around her new guy? Of course not. Which is why she's going to keep him away from you. In time, you'll resent him for ditching the friendship... and you'll hate her even more. For these reasons alone, being friends after a break up just isn't possible.
But the biggest issue with staying friends with your exboyfriend is the fact that you're still in love with him. If you agreed to be his next platonic buddy, it was probably out of the desperate need to keep him close to you. This is the wrong path, and it will destroy your chances of winning him back. Learn a lot more about exactly what to do when your boyfriend wants to be friends with you.
And if you've already fallen into the friendship trap, learn how to get your ex interested in you again as his girlfriend, and not just as a friend. If that's your current situation, check out making the transition from friends back to lovers.
Other Signs Your Ex Boyfriend Still Loves You
There are a lot of other indications given off when your ex still has feelings for you. His body language is a big one. What he tells his friends about you is another. The way he handles himself after letting go of your relationship can tell a lot about his future intentions.
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