Winning Your Boyfriend Back

Getting Your Ex Boyfriend Back Quickly

When your boyfriend breaks up with you, getting back together is often all you can think about. Many women try all different methods to reverse unwanted breakups, but only the ones who can think straight and act proactively will manage to put themselves back in their ex's arms again.

If your boyfriend broke things off in the middle of what you considered to be a good relationship, chances are you'll make some type of effort to get him back. Maybe by the time you're reading this, you already have.

All that said, what you do next is important. And what you don't do... equally so.

Your First Moves After The Break Up

Losing a relationship is often like losing a loved one: the pain you feel seems total and permanent. In a rush to do something, your biggest aim will be getting your ex boyfriend back quickly. In your mind, you'll feel him slipping away second by second. You'll obsess over what he's doing, who he's with, and whether or not he's moved on to another girl. As each day ticks by, you'll feel more and more helpless... and very often, more and more desperate, too.

Ironically, some of the biggest problems you'll face while trying to repair your broken relationship will be obstacles placed there by a single person: yourself. Some of the more common actions you take immediately after your ex breaks up with you can actually be detrimental to winning your man back.

Make too many mistakes, or mistakes of the wrong kind, and it'll be all over before you even had the chance to make an honest effort, or to apply reversal techniques geared toward making him need you back in his life again.

How Leaving Your Ex Alone Makes Him Want You Back

Getting your ex to want you back involves getting him interested in seeing and hearing from you again. Yet right after the breakup occurs, this won't be possible. Your boyfriend will need some time to himself, and some space to be left alone. The more you crowd him during this crucial time, the more he'll push you in the opposite direction. Because of this, you need to stay away from your ex in the days and sometimes even weeks following the breakup. This means removing yourself from his life via phone calls, emails, text-messages, or contact of any kind.

So how can you get your boyfriend back quickly? What can you do to accelerate the process of him wanting you again?

Actually, lots. Even though you shouldn't have initial contact with your ex, it doesn't mean there aren't ways of piquing your boyfriend's interest in you post-breakup. Right off the bat, your ex is going to be looking for a reaction after breaking the news.

The more crushed you are, and the more you try to fight his decision to end things between you? The more your exboyfriend will take it as a sign you're not over him. Knowing he can get you back is a very important asset for him right now, as it allows him to play the field and prolong the breakup without running the risk of losing you for good.

How To Get Your Ex Interested In You Again

Understand something: your boyfriend isn't going to need you back again until he misses you. Now understand something else: your boyfriend can't miss you until you go away.

Just as he's removed himself from your life by breaking up, you need to do the same thing to your ex. In a way, it's like you're mutually breaking up with him: by not chasing or hounding him, you're showing your ex that you're totally okay with the break up.

Are you? Of course not. But at the same time, this display of strength will get your ex thinking about you again and will also earn his respect.

Why isn't she trying to keep the relationship alive? How come she hasn't called to ask for another chance? Your ex boyfriend will ask himself these things as he looks over his shoulder to see how you're doing. Disappear entirely, and he also has to ask himself questions like: Is she seeing someone else? Did she want to break up all along?

This kind of mindset is what will get your ex boyfriend back quickly. The sooner you can get him thinking this way, the faster he'll need to act in order to keep you. Your ex won't want to run the risk of losing you for good - especially if he's uncertain about things. By playing upon these uncertainties, you're creating a scenario in which your ex boyfriend needs to undo the break up in order to keep you in his life.

Your Ex Still Has Feelings and Emotional Bonds Tied To You

No matter how he broke things off, you also need to realize that feelings don't just disappear overnight. The love you feel for your boyfriend is the same love he feels for you - and these types of emotions took weeks, months, or even years to develop. In many cases they run deeper than you think.

In trying to get back your ex, you should be using these emotional bonds to your advantage. You may not be able to do it directly, but there are indirect, subtle ways of reminding your ex how much you really do have together. The memories and emotions are all still there... you just need to draw them out in a non-threatening or confrontational way. Learning the techniques for making your ex nostalgic again can go miles and miles toward putting the two of you back together.

Don't just wing it. Don't take a stab in the dark, and hope for the best. Don't gamble on the future of your relationship by moving forward without a step by step plan for what to do next. Getting back an ex boyfriend is nothing more than another learnable skill, and the more you know the better your chances.

Getting him to think that way is all about making your boyfriend want you again. Some of the best methods and techniques for doing that are taught by relationship guru Matt Huston. Check out his free audio clip on how to get started making your ex need and want you again.

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