Winning Your Boyfriend Back

EX WON'T TALK TO ME

It's the most frustrating situation in the whole world: no contact after the breakup.

You want to tell him you love him, but your ex won't even talk to you. No calls, no texts... not even an email.

So what gives? Is your ex boyfriend over you? Or is there still a chance... some way of re-opening the lines of communication so you can work toward getting him back?

Well to tell the truth, there's good news and bad news about this situation. Let's start with the bad news first, so we can get it out of the way.

An ex boyfriend who won't talk to you after the breakup MAY be moving on. He might be losing interest, or finding interest in other people. He might even already have found another girlfriend, or is thinking of dating someone else. All bad news, if you're looking to get back with him.

Remember: when a break up happens, you have a very limited window in which to act. EVERYTHING you do, EVERYTHING you say... all of it has to be geared toward getting your ex boyfriend to want you again. Waste that window, and you're going to be in trouble.

Now this doesn't mean you have to open your heart and flood him with attention. In many cases, that's actually one of the worst decisions you can make. And the more mistakes you make, the longer the road back into your exboyfriend's heart will potentially be.

Which of These Mistakes Have You Already Made

• Telling your ex you love him "more than anything in the world"

• Telling him you need him, and that you can't go on without him

• Letting him know you're "there for him", even as a "friend", in case he needs you

• Telling your exboyfriend you'll wait for him, or that you'll "give him space"

Guilty of a few of these? If so, that's okay. They're bad behaviors, but they're also easily corrected.

One of the first things you'll need to know about getting an ex boyfriend back is how to act immediately following the break up. You only get one good shot at this, so you'll want to make it count.

The Good News About Him Not Calling you

Alright, onto some good news. Because one of the best ways to get an ex boyfriend to want, need, and love you again, is for you to leave him alone for a while.

If he hasn't called or contacted you? You've already implemented that first step. You've created an atmosphere where he has the opportunity to miss you, think about you, and even need you again. No, this has nothing to do with "giving him space" (that's a different problem). But after a breakup already occurred? It has everything to do with making you more desirable because you're NOT CHASING HIM.

See, everything we want to normally do after a breakup is exactly the opposite of what we should be doing. Want to chase after your ex? You'll only end up pushing him away. Want to shower him with texts and emails telling him how much you love him? You're only going to frighten him off.

By not chasing, not contacting, and not going after your ex boyfriend, you're showing him that you have a life without him. This is one of several crucial counter-intuitive opening moves that will start you off on the path to reconciliation.

But it's not that simple. Ignoring your ex can only take you so far, and if he's ignoring you back for any length of time? Well, then the relationship could die. You could run the risk of losing everything you've worked for, and never getting back together again.

Spending time on your own - without contact - isn't enough. On top of that, you've got to live a life of your own. You've got to go out, do things, see friends, visit family - fill your life (and yes, even your Facebook page) with fun activities that show you not only surviving, but thriving without him.

Jealousy. It's your friend, and it's a key factor in getting your boyfriend to notice you again. Not jealousy of him seeing you flirting/hanging around with some other guy (although that wouldn't be the worst thing in the world when it comes to reversing your breakup), but a general feeling that hey, maybe he made a mistake in letting you go. Maybe you are a great catch, and maybe he's the one who made a mistake in ending the relationship early.

What to Do if Your Breakup Happened and He Still Won't Call

Now, if your ex still hasn't called? Don't give up hope yet. There are still a whole truckload of reconnection tips and tricks (and some of these are pretty sneaky!) to make him initiate contact with you again, no matter how long it's been since he called.

By far, the guide listed below is the all-around best resource when it comes to repairing a relationship after an unwanted breakup: